I was having a candid discussion with a friend recently when we somehow got into the discussion of the above; unlike the hardcore romantics out there I do not believe in 'Love At First Sight' yes grumble all you want but I don't - I do believe in Like/Lust at First Sight thou - allow me to explain :
When you meet someone for the first time - what gets you first is their appearance , their dressing sense etc ... how in the world can one equate this love ? Would it not be superficial then? People are attracted to a lot of things in a person of the opposite sex - mostly what they find appealing to them; personally for me , intelligence plays a major factor in it. If a guy had all the looks in the world but did not have the intelligence to match it - for me it would be of no use. Similarly if a guy was an average looking person but had a strong personality/intelligence - was not afraid of making a stand in his views on different topics - ranging from sports to politics and beyond infinity it would most definitely catch my attention.
Intelligence and wit are the best dress sense a person can have , for hours of conversations on random topics intrigue me - for a person who is knowledge hungry like me; learning new things on a daily basis through someone else - as in understanding the person view point provides me with a platform of learning - i consider it free tutoring :P
It is after a great deal of time , does that lust or like transcend onto the next stage of it , assuming you lust for someone with good looks - it should then take a natural progression towards liking that person - this is where you get to know that person on a greater level - this is where you take the time to understand that individual better - not just that layer of superficiality that she/he may have for the world. As human beings we tend to mask ourselves and hide our emotions and true feelings - simply because we do not want to be vulnerable.
It is during this phase of that 'relationship' does the said person start peeling those layers off - depending on how many layers the person has (this depends on the kind of past adventures/misadventures that person has gone through) allowing you to understand them on an entirely different level. This of course depends if the both of you are on the same page :)
So yes - essentially to me Love is like a plant - you first bury the seeds beneath a pile of soil ... you nurture it along the way, protect it from pesticides, pull out the weeds , water it , give it enough sunshine and after many months of effort put into it will you the labor of your love :)
Love takes time, sometimes it grows on you , often times it doesn't but whats important to remember is that no matter what the outcome of it maybe - never regret that moment that journey - because in that journey of nurturing what you felt for someone else - along the way you understood yourself better as a person.
On that note, have a fantastic Monday ahead :)
When you meet someone for the first time - what gets you first is their appearance , their dressing sense etc ... how in the world can one equate this love ? Would it not be superficial then? People are attracted to a lot of things in a person of the opposite sex - mostly what they find appealing to them; personally for me , intelligence plays a major factor in it. If a guy had all the looks in the world but did not have the intelligence to match it - for me it would be of no use. Similarly if a guy was an average looking person but had a strong personality/intelligence - was not afraid of making a stand in his views on different topics - ranging from sports to politics and beyond infinity it would most definitely catch my attention.
Intelligence and wit are the best dress sense a person can have , for hours of conversations on random topics intrigue me - for a person who is knowledge hungry like me; learning new things on a daily basis through someone else - as in understanding the person view point provides me with a platform of learning - i consider it free tutoring :P
It is after a great deal of time , does that lust or like transcend onto the next stage of it , assuming you lust for someone with good looks - it should then take a natural progression towards liking that person - this is where you get to know that person on a greater level - this is where you take the time to understand that individual better - not just that layer of superficiality that she/he may have for the world. As human beings we tend to mask ourselves and hide our emotions and true feelings - simply because we do not want to be vulnerable.
It is during this phase of that 'relationship' does the said person start peeling those layers off - depending on how many layers the person has (this depends on the kind of past adventures/misadventures that person has gone through) allowing you to understand them on an entirely different level. This of course depends if the both of you are on the same page :)
So yes - essentially to me Love is like a plant - you first bury the seeds beneath a pile of soil ... you nurture it along the way, protect it from pesticides, pull out the weeds , water it , give it enough sunshine and after many months of effort put into it will you the labor of your love :)
Love takes time, sometimes it grows on you , often times it doesn't but whats important to remember is that no matter what the outcome of it maybe - never regret that moment that journey - because in that journey of nurturing what you felt for someone else - along the way you understood yourself better as a person.
On that note, have a fantastic Monday ahead :)
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